Hot Independence Day!

Here's a great exercise to celebrate Independence Day!

Write your own Bill of Rights

A little background...

The United States Bill of Rights is made up of the first 10 Amendments to the Constitution. Here's a link to check out the U.S. Bill of Rights for reference (It can be fun to use some of the same wording in your own Bill of Rights)!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States_Bill_of_Rights#Text_of_the_Bill_of_Rights

Here's the fun, and relevant part...

You can keep amending the constitution of your life!  Continue to offer yourself more freedoms to be your best you!

Now fram it and hang that mutha up!

Note: Sometimes we're trapped in feeling that we don't have any rights to be ourselves or to advocate for ourselves.  An example might be moms who don't feel that they have time for themselves, but more importantly don't believe that they deserve to have time for themselves.  Write your right down anyway!  What's the harm?  It's okay for your Bill of Rights to start from a place that you see as a dream world.  This can be an exercise to secure your rights to be yourself, but it can also be a start to thinking about what you deserve.  We can work on why you deserve that world in later exercises, or in coaching.

Have a safe and fun 4th of July Everyone!

Hot Inspiration!

This may seem like a negative start.  Keep reading, it will turn around!
If I read one more "inspiring" tweet I will scream.  It will be one of those shrill crazy lady screams that the neighbors down the block can hear.  They will think to themselves, "That lady has had it."  They will be right. 
Coaches, is our work a means to fill some kind of self indulgent fantasy where we take over and with our sweeping inspiration change the lives of others?  Yuck!
My job is to support my clients, but people come to coaching when they have reached their own inspiration.  When they know that they want to move forward, they're just not sure how.
Here's some inspiration for ya...

The inspiration to be your best self comes from inside yourself!

This in no way negates coaching.  Having an advocate in your path to self discovery and self realization can be incredibly important.  As coaches we have the tools to help you get the most out of walking this path.  That's all we've got though.  Coaches have the tools, you have the truth!

Here's my new plan...
I'll continue blogging about different ideas here, but I'm also going to be sharing some of the exercises that I use in my practice.  Stuff that you can try at home.  My hope is that these exercises can help you to actively get on your path.  If nothing else, they will mean that you're doing something for yourself! 
Again, this is not a replacement for coaching, and if you're interested in really getting at the life that you were created for, please contact me coachdaceycraig@gmail.com

Happy Independence Day!

Hot Permission

Hi all! There's a great exercise at the bottom of this post!

When we were kids we asked permission.

Now that we are adults, we grant permission!

As children we are taught to ask others for permission.  This is meant to keep us safe, and to help those responsible for us, guide us.  Now that we're adults, the guidance that we need is inside our own hearts.

Still many of us are waiting for permission to grant permission!

What would life be like if you truly felt like you had permission to...

Be yourself?

Love yourself?

Feel your own worth?

Achieve your dreams?

Let go of others expectations?

Get in the driver's seat of your own life?

Dream big?

What if you had permission to conquer whatever is holding you back? What would that feel like?  If your answer is something like...

Liberating

Sexy

Joyful

Free

here's some great news!

The authority to grant permission is yours! 

HERE'S AN EXERCISE FOR YOU TO TRY:

List some of the things that you know your heart desires, but that you've been having a hard time achieving. Give yourself permission!

It may look a little like this:

I have permission to make $______

I have permission to get that promotion

I have permission to lose those __ lbs

I have permission to know and acknowledge my own worth!

Now hang that mutha up!

Hot Groundhog

This week I had two friends come to me with the same dilemma. See if this rings any bells...

Ever woken up in a relationship and realized that the funny, considerate, and affectionate dream boat that you fell in love with has been replaced by someone closed off, snarky, and sanitized? Have you ever felt the overwhelming resentment and disappointment that accompanies the realization that yet again, you're dating your ex?! Different shoes same bad news!

Frustration sets in.  This may not be the first time that you've woken up with your past, and you're desperate to know, "Why does this always happen to me?!"  It's an excellent question, and the good news is that it's not a complete fluke.

You may have heard the myth that we only use 10% of our brain.  While our conscious mind does only occupy 10% of the property upstairs, the other 90%, our subconscious, is fully functional. We can blame it for groundhog's day scenarios like these. 

Ever thought, “What happened, he's like a completely different person”? Here's the deal, your subconscious saw that 'different person' coming from a mile away.  It's smart like that.

At the start of a relationship, our conscious minds are in a love haze.  We're rockin' all those love hormones, and it's hot!  Underneath all of the lust and butterflies, our subconscious sees something in the match that says, "Here's a healing opportunity.”

What the heart knows, and subconscious misses is that even though wounds invade from the outside in, healing begins on the inside and blooms out.

Here's to healing yourself from the inside out, and finding the everlasting love that you deserve!